19-year-old aunt gets pressured into babysitting sister's kids while sister goes on vacation, she refuses, leading sister to cancel the trip altogether: ‘You ruined my trip’

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Apr 3, 2025 11:00 AM EDT

Being an aunt or an uncle is usually great. It's all fun and games, without the responsibilities of actually having to be fully in charge of a kid. You get to come visit, take them out, spoil them, and then return them home to their parents by bedtime. It's pretty easy stuff, and it is usually very rewarding, because they end up absolutely loving you.

The reason it is only usually great, and not always great, is because of the babysitting. The first time your sibling asks you to babysit their kids, you probably don't think too much about it. Of course you want to help them out, and you love those kids, so why wouldn't you want to babysit? 

But then, the requests just keep coming and coming, and before you know it, you are basically co-parenting your siblings' kids alongside them, babysitting has become your second, unofficial job, and you barely have any free time for yourself. It is a slippery slope, one you may not know you have fallen into before it is too late.

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  • For the woman in the story below, it is definitely too late. It's not that she babysits all the time, but her sister definitely knows how to push her buttons to get her to agree to some of her babysitting favors. Her latest favor wasn't even a favor; it was more of a demand. Dear sister wanted the 19-year-old aunt to take all three of her kids for a week, while she goes off to Thailand.

    How did the aunt react to this demand? Keep scrolling to find out.

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    "I don't want to take care of toddlers for a week"
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    "AITAH for refusing to take care of my niece?"

    I am 19(f) and recently got my own apartment by myself. I live in a very niece 2 bedroom apartment which i worked very hard to get. Now for some more information i
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    have a a collection of katanas (if you don't know what those are they basically anime swords) i have about 7 in my living room as part of my decoration.
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    This weekend my sister's daughter 13 called me asking me if i could keep her for the weekend due to her parents living for vacation to go to Thailand for a week i agreed
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    cause me and her get along so well and i love her to bits and pieces. I asked my sister if it was okay and she said yes. Now comes Sunday when she was supposed to
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    drop her off she came her and her husband and they other 2 kids 3 and 6 years i thought they were just dropping off the older one and were taking the other
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    two to stay with my parents. She came in with 3 bags and a baby bag. i was confused and asked my sister about the baby bag she told me that "Since i was taking my
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    older niece i could take them all" i told her that i couldn't due to me first not wanting to have 2 toddlers to take care off for a week while i myself still have school and that my house was not safe.
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    She knows about my house not being baby proof and that my little nieces are not allowed to just walk around for themselves at my place. She then got super upset and told me i could remove the
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    knifes i told her no and that she should have told me. She asked me what she was supposed to do and i told her take them to mom and dad she told me she couldn't cause they were in away as
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    well and would only be back in 2 weeks. I told her it wasn't my problem and that i wouldn't mind taking my older niece but not the younger ones. She then took all her kids and left.
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    She sent a message on the family group chat saying shes no longer going to Thailand and that I had ruined her whole trip. The whole family group chat have been on my a about what happened so i wanna know AITAH?
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    Edit: She got childcare my aunt offered to take care of the kids for her but now everyone is upset cause my aunt who already has her own 2 kids is having to take
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    care of 3 others i did tell them the full story but everyone is still saying i should have just taken care of them im glad my mom came in and set the record straight for me that im 19 i have
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    school and i have a part-time job the only reason why i'd be able to take care of the 13 year old is cause she could come to my work with me and not bother me in anyway or form im very glad i have the kid of mom that i do
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    ChestLanders NTA. There is never a situation on the planet where you are an a hle for refusing to take care of someone else's children. You did not agree to watch them. Your sister tried
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    to take advantage of you. Ask any family member giving you sh why they didn't offer to babysit the younger kids.
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    CommunicationGlad299 Curious, how is a 19 year old who is in school and works part time able to afford a nice apartment? NTA for not taking all the kids. If that is what your sister wanted you to do she should have talked
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    to you and tried to set it up well before drop off. She was hoping to buy you into it. It didn't work. Too bad so sad for her.
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    Trick Historian_6581 OP well my parents invested a lot in making sure we are independent atleast by the age of 21 so i've worked since i was 10 at my dads company and when i turned 16 started working at a coffee shop and yeah learnt how to save money from a very young age so yeah my sister herself lives a very comfortable lifestyle due to my parents teaching so yea
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    kindofar hole17 Did your niece reach out to you regarding staying at yours of her own accord, or did her mother put her up to it?
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    This smells like an attempt at a bait and switch. Or your sister is just an irresponsible moron. ΝΤΑ
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    Trick Historian_6581 OP i do think her mom put her up to it but i can't say for sure. Also when i lived with my parents. she did come over a lot so idk
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    Sewing-Mama Why would anyone ask for overnight care for an international trip at the last minute? Also why is the 13 y/o calling to
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    make childcare arrangements, not the adult sister? Sister's lack of planning does not constitute an emergency on your part. NTA
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    Trick Historian_6581 OP that's what i'm saying maybe if she had asked me at least 2 weeks in advance i could have made a plan for her but i still wouldn't have taken the kids
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    ChestLanders NTA. There is never a situation on the planet where you are an a hole for refusing to take care of someone else's children. You did not agree to watch them. Your sister tried to take advantage of you. Ask any family member giving you sh why they didn't offer to babysit the younger kids.
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